Welcome to
Intimate Times Couples Social Club
DRESS and DECORUM - ETIQUETTE and EXPECTATIONs
Information Page

Updated 27 April 2010

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First and Foremost, this is a PRIVATE PARTY Adult Couples to Couples Social Club.

Our members are what make the Club, and we take Member input Seriously.

Always allow RESPECT to guide your personal choices & you will have a Fantastic Time.

So Now What???

You have looked at our Website, done lots of other research, and are really wanting to take the plunge into the Realm of the

Adult Couples to Couples Lifestyle Experience.

It’s just that you really do not actually know what to expect and that can be Intimidating.

This Page is designed to address the most Frequently Asked Questions and to help you navigate your way to come and visit us with your Comfort in mind..

It is our Goal that The moment you Enter I.T.s you will have a

Real sense of Welcoming Warmth & Comfort.

**If you are single, please pay particular attention to the last paragraphs.

What is Swinging Really?	Swinging has a lot of definitions People have written books that specifically attempt to delineate and define SWINGING right from grades or levels or classes, we think this is all far too complicated. We DO NOT define Swinging specifically because we know how individual the experience is, but we will say for certain that there is a large population of fun-loving, free-thinking, people who want the option to enjoy their world the way they want to & NOT to be defined by, or regulated by, others’ ideologies. We, at Intimate Times, have the best members. There are so many great people in the club who simply want to express their inner sensuality and want to feel safe doing so. Some may want to wear sexXy outfits in a non-judgmental environment. Some simply want the freedom to flirt and dance without worrying that the boy or girl he/she is dancing with will have an expectation of a ‘night in bed’ or some continued relationship. (Remember, we said EXPECTATION, Friendships & fun relationships Seem to Flourish so Easy here) We have members in open marriages; others in poly-amorous relationships, some who are there merely for recreational fun with either very distinct or very few limits, and the rest who welcome ‘anything & everything in between’ that involves adults only, and is safe, sane, & consensual. Our club is a playce where you get to express You! Swinging is about Partner Supported Fantasy Fulfillment.
How am I supposed to act?	You act in the same way you would in any other type of Social Gathering of people you are just getting to know – with respect and courtesy, You should feel as comfortable meeting new people here as you would in any social environment… We are, after all, just regular people first. A good rule is, if it’s acceptable in general, then it’s acceptable here. A smile, a gentle NON-SEXUAL touch is a good indicator of response … if he or she moves in closer, then you may move in closer should you desire. Always Remember, our Primary Rule - NEVER Randomly Grope or Grab! That IS Harassment and will NOT be tolerated
I was told that Swing Clubs are Sex Clubs and that’s what I want. I should be able to expect sex right?	Absolutely NOT1 Every Club has different policies but you need to know that we do NOT provide Sex, Sell Sex, or leave ANY uncertain idea that we are about hooking the members &/or guests up. Rather, Intimate Times provides a fun & safe playce for Likeminded People to hang out & meet each other. If that carries on into the evening or at another time, then that is entirely between you all.
What can I expect when I arrive?	You will be greeted at the door by a door attendee. We will explain to you certain rules and you will sign a waiver of confidentiality – thus you will need to bring your PHOTO IDENTIFICATION. You will then pay your cover charge, and we, or the members you are with, will give you a tour.
Why Photo ID? I want to be ANONYMOUS!!!!	We take photo ID for several reasons & We understand your nervousness. You are cautiously exploring your fantasies and because of some of the taboos of our society, you don’t want to get ‘found out’. Well, that is exactly why we take photo ID, because we need to know that you will be as discreet as all of our current members. Each person who becomes a member recognizes how special it is and works to protect it. However, if anyone simply appeared and used any phony name or failed to produce ID, that person would have no stake in assuring your privacy. Let’s face it, the hardest part of attending a lifestyle event is the psychology. After all, you have to allow yourself to move through the front door without really knowing what to expect, it can be scary. Having said that, All we can do from this end is assure that we are a club with Many members because once they do attend, they realize how comfortable it is and want to attend again. Photo ID assures that people are real and that they understand the document they are signing is legal. Consider the alternatives: There are clubs where you need only to show up, pay your cover, and you sign a ‘waiver’ with any name – regardless of whether you received a formal invitation or had phoned ahead – and without supporting Identification. This is not safe for everyone else who is also attending the club. 1)For example: Joe & Jane Smith, work for the media (or whomever), and are on a mission to get a story that will A) report on a particular person/lifestyle or B) increase their readership at your personal expense. They could write any story they chose, including names, pictures, etc, of any attendee at that club and there would be no possible recourse because it would be impossible to prove that Joe & Jane actually signed any documents of confidentiality. That is a good enough reason for taking photo ID but we have another Great Reason to keep us all safe… 2) We do NOT Want ‘Hookers’, ‘Johns’, or drug dealers/drugs in the Club at all. While one may not truly know another person’s profession, what we do know is that it is unlikely that anyone in an otherwise illegal profession would be willing to produce photo ID if they were going to carry on their profession via our membership. We have members of law enforcement, media, government, sports personalities, along with every other profession who want to be in a safe, fun, & freeing environment, WTIH their privacy assured as best as possible. We, along with all the swing clubs we recommend, require photo ID.
Ok, I understand the photo ID part now, but what if I run into my neighbor or cousin or __?	This happens and it can be a bit disconcerting the first time. All we say is that everyone at the club has 1) signed their waiver, and 2) has their hand in the Same Cookie Jar. They are likely as surprised as you, but they also understand. As we stated, our club is about the freedom to be who you are.
How do People tend to interact at Intimate Times versus a regular nightclub or lounge like environment?	The biggest complaints we hear about regular lounges/nightclubs or other non-lifestyle events are that they cater mostly to singles trying to pick up other singles. The unfortunate reality is that style of interaction is often competitive and rude. There seems to always be a group of younger adult females pointing and laughing at another group of people. There are always those testosterone laden males trying to pick up someone while pushing the other boys away – all this strutting can easily lead to Bar Fights & other forms of Stupidity. What you will Find at Intimate Times is that People arrive, generally speaking, in couples. If the ‘He’ is interested in a ‘She’ then he will often introduce himself to her OTHER 1/2 first. There is no vying for attention or wiggling of one’s peacock feathers. The lifestyle is about encouraging each other to explore and fulfill their fantasies, it is NOT about possession. There is no reason to fight because everyone understands that part of the game is the flirty fun & the game is played with ultimate respect! Smiles are a bound in this very freeing atmosphere.
What kind of things do you have at the club so we can interact?	We have music, a dance floor, a DJ booth (complete with a live person to converse with), a pool table (no coins required), a ‘fireplace’ lounge area (a bit more quiet), a non-alcoholic bar, Coffee, chips, nuts, chocolate, fruits, lots of snax available both Friday & Saturday. All of this and an amazing group of people for a relatively small cover charge! WE often play interactive games and give prizes away to the winners. We host hotel party meet & greets that are visited by people from all over North America!
Speaking of Cover charge, it seems a little high to pay. What does it include?	Entry includes all the goodies just mentioned, plus a supply of amenities that need a fair degree of maintenance. Before thinking our rates are high, consider this: A movie for 2, popcorn & a pop will set you back approximately $50/couple and will last 2 hrs. We include food, coffee, and entertainment for the whole evening – 9pm – 3am – for $30/member couple’s rate. At the movie, you must purchase their snax & pop, at our club you are welcome to bring in your own favorite non-alcoholic beverage, Also, our rates have been the same for 9 years. However, our rent, utilities, and overall expenses have more than doubled in that time. Plus, WE pay the GST – it’s is included in your Entry.
What about liquor? Can we bring that in? It helps us relax.	We are working on attaining a legal liquor license. There are clubs who are flying under the radar with regards to liquor sales/service/consumption/licensing and activities that are not allowed per the AGLC. That risk is everybody’s personal choice, however, should anyone get caught, the fines are steep for both the club owners and the individual in attendance. The club owners also risk never to be allowed to get licensed in Alberta. Thus, we are doing the right thing. With regard to B.Y.O.B., it is illegal for an individual to bring liquor onto any commercial property unless there is a license that supports it – such as a ‘bring your own wine’ option at a restaurant. We do not have that sort of license nor is it possible for us to get one. The AGLC can fine any person who contravenes that rule. We encourage our members/guests to be smart & safe about their decisions.
Back to personal expectations.. Do we have to Swing? Do we have to allow anyone to touch us? Is this a ‘free for all?’ Am I expected to Go and Grope or Watch or Join in???	NO!! Please refer to the second answer – RESPECT & COURTESY FIRST-
I’m not really comfortable with my body - I don’t think I look like Barbie (or Ken).. Will I be accepted?	We have yet to meet Ken & Barbie … I suspect that they will be a bit too plastic to be much fun anyway. Generally speaking you have just relayed the same concern that 99.9% of us have, which is part of WHY we have this sort of Club – to be as free as we want with our fantasy fulfillment! We all age differently and our lives are what we should be celebrating. We at Intimate Times believe that Beauty & Sensuality are exuded via One’s attitude - Sensuality is an Attitude and True Beauty is Exuded through Ones Eyes and Welcoming Smile! Our Club is FILLED with the Sexiest People because the People who come to our Club have the Sexiest & Most Fun Attitudes! We SPECIFICALLY did NOT inundate our WEB site with unreal Images of Barbie-Doll-Porn-Stars because we all know that the True Heart of Passion often belies the Exterior Package. SexXy IS What SexXy Does!
What if we meet people & they are interested in us, & I find that couple attractive, but my partner does not?	This WILL Happen, expect it. Again, we are dealing with the issue of Respect. Your primary relationship is that between you and your partner. If there is chemistry all around, then that’s great!! If not, well don’t push it or ultimately you will just be bringing trouble for yourself & your partner - it isn’t worth it. You ARRIVED as a COUPLE and that is your primary relationship to nurture. Our lives are already bereft with insecurities and jealousy. The last thing anyone need do is to encourage exactly those behaviours that hurt our loved ones and harm our closest relationships. Our Club is about Bringing you Closer as a Couple – Sharing More, Being More Open & Honest about Your likes, dislikes, wants, desires, & fantasies… and then making them Happen. All this being said, sometimes a simple set of signals between a couple will go a long way to avoid an awkward situation.
How do we Say “NO” to a couple who are perhaps fun but there is just no chemistry on our part? We do not want to be rude.	This is a common concern because we all want to be well thought of and yet we don’t want to have to ‘take one for the team’. There are many ways to say no – mostly via body language. But if you are faced with something more directly, simply be honest. I like you both but not in that way. It also the most kind to be honest early so that other couple can move on should they choose to. All of the members have many friends in Club who they have never connected in that way with & for many different reasons.
Suppose that we both feel comfortable and would like to go to an Open Play Space… (either at a private home, hotel room, or other recreational space), However, we have not yet ‘connected’ with any particular couple, Can we just ‘join in’?	Generally speaking, NO. You can only ‘join-in’ if invited. You can Ask to be invited. However, perhaps you could consider the creation of your own play space - your enthusiasm will go a long way towards the attraction of other couples. You may be surprised at how many couples ask to join your party. Smile & Show interest & You may just Get an Invite
Is there a Dress code? What am I supposed to wear?	YES there is a Dress Code! As in any other social situation, if you look and smell good, you will be noticed. Consequently, Clean, Well-fitting, attire will put you in a positive light. Speaking of Attire, Intimate Times’ has a Dress Code, it is "Classy Chic" or "In-Theme". The idiom “Dress to Impress” has Real Meaning here. Thus, unless that is the theme, NO Sweatpants, NO Track outfits, NO ‘Gangsta’ wear – and that includes Ball Caps, toques, stocking caps, (other hats, such as Cowboy, bowlers, etc, specifically styled for the theme or the outfit are usually acceptable). NO Dirty, NO Unkempt.. need we Say More?? Be aware that the Manager of the Day and/or the Door attendant reserve the right to refuse entry based on dress & Hygiene. WHY??? Our philosophy, along with a lot of member input is that “He” should match “She”! This does NOT mean you need to Wear identical outfits, but rather, Generally speaking, Women work for hours to look Phenomenal and all too often, their mates show up dressed in pretty much whatever they threw on and/or were wearing all day – This is NOT acceptable. This is a ‘Couples meeting Couples’ environment and you need to dress for it... while it may be difficult to believe but “She” will NOT necessarily think You are hot simply because YOU think “She” is. We all want to feel comfortable, SO, if it’s dirty, smelly, or in disrepair, leave it at home. Remember, you're a couple seeking other friends in the lifestyle, if you both dress well, you'll be amazed at the results.
What El.se should I be aware of with regard to my visit?	1. Hygiene , Hygiene , Hygiene ... And once more, Hygiene. Again, it's simple. Be clean, be fresh, take a shower, comb your hair, brush your teeth, DEODORIZE, (even if YOU don’t think you smell – few things turn a positive situation around faster than Body Odor) Deodorize! At Intimate Times, we recognize that Sometimes, even with Excellent Hygiene, one requires a bit of a fluff & puff on arrival. Consequently, We provide a selection of grooming products so that you can freshen up if you need to. Clean hands, clean bodies, trimmed nails, etc. - make the evening more pleasant for everyone.
I heard a rumor about Someone I knows who attends the club. What do I do? I know something to be ‘true’ about someone at the club… What do I do?	You treat the rumor/knowledge in the same manner that you would any other rumor – responsibly. You have several choices: 1) approach the source of the rumor and then take your knowledge to the victim of the rumor; 2) you could approach management with it and help us help you to determine the gravity of the situation; or 3) you can choose to ignore it. Regardless, if you spread it to anyone other than management for assistance in dealing with the problem, and we find out about it, then you may have your membership revoked. Rumors hurt people and do so without discretion. The original story is always quickly bereft with lies and assumptions, plus, Many people share the same name and the target of one rumor may find the bystander with the same name instead. One NEVER knows who is friends with whom. Don’t take that chance.
But I really know this is true.	Then approach management with your concern and we will help deal with whatever it is. Do NOT spread rumors.
Above all other things, No Means No.	You've heard it before and it's a basic rule at all Lifestyle clubs . More so, though, it is an absolute REQUIREMENT that when one says No, it is respected. In the lifestyle, you need only to say No, you DO NOT need to explain further. Any harassment with regard to saying No will see the offender removed from this club. Above all, at Intimate Times, we respect each other’s choices and expect that our choices are given that same respect.. A large part of this Lifestyle is to Build and Maintain Positive Social Relationships with Likeminded People. Even if you are not attracted to any particular couple or person, Courtesy IS PARAMOUNT!!! Saying No does not burn a bridge, however, disrespect (gossip, rudeness, etc) will rapidly equate to self-defeat. Rather, be polite, interactive, and smile - remember, the community is quite interconnected and you never know what opportunities that particular ‘Life-styler’ may bring to you, or prevent you from, in the future. Be polite, smile, say “No” if you mean it…and respect “No” if you hear it.
Ok, but if I say no and that person doesn’t stop, what do I do?	If you have been clear about your intentions or lack thereof with a particular person/couple and they remain persistent, we ask that you approach a staff member for assistance on that same night. We can’t do anything about a situation that happened “last week”. We need to assess everything in the now. Please alert us. Often these situations are simple misunderstandings easily resolved without any hurt feelings.
I still have a few more questions, How do I find those answers?	Submit your information to us as per our “Membership” page and we will be glad to answer any further questions.

We don't have a lot of rules at Intimate Times,
However, By now you know that the Golden Rule at IT is

RESPECT for Yourself and Each otherJ

SINGLES – PAY ATTENTION!!

Singles OFTEN have a difficult time connecting in this Lifestyle. This particularly applies to Single Men.

1. This is NOT a Place to ‘GET SOME’ simply because Lifestylers are more sexually free. The REALITY of it is that, primarily, Couples prefer to meet and play with Couples. You will have a Better Shot at “Getting Lucky” at the end of the Evening at ANY Public, Non-Swinger, Nightclub out there. When you are invited to the Club, realize that your behavior will determine whether you are will be allowed to return & for which events.

2. This is NOT a place to attempt to Break Up Couples – interference like that will have you removed. Smart Singles recognize that they are invited into a couple’s relationship recreationally only.

3. Single Women may find more offers than Single Men. You have every opportunity to say “No” as does anyone else…. Or “Yes” as to your Liking. All Singles, keep in mind that Unless HE is Single, his Other ½ IS his number one – Usually it will be the ‘She’ who will make the decision.

**Singles – Men are usually welcome to attend on Friday nights (check the web-site "Events" page). Since this is PRIMARILY a COUPLES’ club, attendance of Single Men is restricted on Saturday (typical of most Lifestyle clubs). Single Women are always welcome to attend.

Why? Several reasons:

1. Without that restriction, the club would have 20 single men for each couple – which is not conducive for a couple to couple environment and,

2. The general membership has requested it. After all, ITs is primarily a COUPLES’ interactive social club.

Keep in mind, Should you, as a single male, wish to attend on a Saturday, You must already be an APPROVED single male member of Intimate Times, & you must attend signed in with a Member couple in good standing as their guest. Keep in mind that you are then considered with that couple and are restricted to remain with that couple UNLESS invited otherwise.

If you are the male of a member couple in good standing, and your mate has approved it, you may attend Saturdays as a single if She’s unavailable. HOWEVER, simply being a member does NOT win you this privilege. If we regularly see you two together then we are very likely to allow either of you to attend alone (with your spouse's approval) but if we NEVER see your wife, then you will be considered a single and no longer allotted this privilege.

To become a single male member of Intimate Times, you have to attend first on a Friday night, meet the owners/hosts, understand the rules, and be approved for membership. Approval is primarily based on Your behaviour and the reactions of other members. Keep in mind, that while you may have an initial approval, if we receive complaints with regard to your behaviour, your membership will be revoked without financial compensation.

**Single Women are always Welcome on both Friday and Saturday (any complaints with regard to this inequity will fall upon deaf ears). Keep in mind that single women have to fit in with the club as much as single men.

On Most Nights, The Upper level Lounge is EXCLUSIVELY for couples & single women wanting to lounge. Single Men must be INVITED by a couple or join with another willing single (to become a couple) before you are allowed to ascend. We are in the middle of major renovations to improve the function and environment of the upstairs and the club in general.

If you have any more questions, please email us at intimate_times@hotmail.com

Or give us a Call at

(780) 221 - HOT1 (4681)

Hope to See you There.
Have a Magnificent Day!